Bad habits are a part of who we are and they can be hard to break. It can be frustrating to try to change our lives, but it is possible. There are a few things that can help us change our lives and our bad habits. First, we need to be aware of our bad habits. We need to be honest with ourselves and figure out what we need to change. Second, we need to find a way to make our bad habits less enjoyable. We need to find ways to break the habit without enjoying it less. Finally, we need to keep working at changing our lives and our bad habits. If we keep at it, we can eventually change our lives and our bad habits.
Watch the following video carefully; it is a real eye-opener:
How can I change my life and my bad habits?
How can I change my life and my bad habits? The first step is admitting that there is a problem. I need to be honest with myself and understand that I need to make some changes. I need to be more disciplined and have more self-control. I also need to set goals and make plans to achieve them. I need to be more positive and have a positive outlook on life. I also need to find support and accountability. I need to surround myself with people who will help me make changes and who will be there to support me.
I was that guy who would always say “oh yeah, I’m going to quit smoking” to everyone around me, almost as a way of making myself accountable. But deep down, I knew I was always going to fail. I knew my habits were too deep. Overeating. Smoking. Drugs. Chocolate. Drinking. Not exercising. Laziness. Pornography. Anger. Depression. Sadness. Lethargy. Criticising. Judging. Over opinionated. Self-righteous. Overspending. The list of bad habits seemed endless.
Often, I would hear people say to me “oh, just quit!” as though it was the easiest thing to do (usually non-smokers!). In hindsight, it actually *is* that easy, so why is it that I could never do it? No matter how many books I read, or how many YouTube videos I watched, I could never seem to get it under control. I always wondered “yeah, but how?? That works for them, but it doesn’t work for me!”
MY MIND WAS THE PROBLEM
That very way of thinking was exactly the problem.
Even now as I write this, inferiority is another deeply ingrained mental habit. Suddenly it rises up in me, covering my mind and staining my entire body. “I’m not an authority on this!?” “I’m not perfect!” “Who am I to teach anyone?” “No one is going to listen to me!”.
So many bloody thoughts! And you know what? I’m not perfect! I still drink. I still overeat. I still from time-to-time smoke. I still have imperfect thoughts. But I’ve come to realise it’s all just part of the process of “recovery”.
To quit smoking, is literally as simple as just stopping. So why is it I couldn’t just do that? The simple answer is, because of my mind. The times I felt anxious and needed a release. The times I felt depressed and needed a way out of my mind. The times I felt angry and needed to soften my mind. The times I was simply bored and wanted some entertainment. Heck, even the times where life was so good that I thought “now I can smoke, but I’m feeling good enough I won’t let myself go beyond 1 day”.
I began to realise there were always these cues which triggered my desire to fulfill that habit. Even all the research I was reading and hearing was saying the same thing, so this was comforting to know. But it didn’t change the fact that I was still a complete slave to those habits. It’s almost as though all the various habits I had were working together to enslave me! It’s not just 1 habit of smoking- if it was, I felt I could drop it EASILY, I am certain of that. But it wasn’t just that. It was tied up in a cluster with basically every bad habit I had. They all fed on each other and lead to each other, so there were always too many cues to battle through. And it didn’t matter how much I understood that or tried to change it; I would still revert to those bad habits.
THE FORMULA FOR CHANGING HABITS
I tried so many things, but none of it really seemed to work. The only thing that seemed to make a difference was discarding those habits from my mind, and then rebuilding new ones. The research said just build new ones, but I couldn’t build new ones! So, as I meditated and reflected on myself, I started to realise a bit of a formula. I don’t know if it’s true or not, but my formula goes like this: the number of habits together + the intensity of each habit = difficulty of changing the habit. So, in other words, if I had just 1 habit, but it was a DEEPLY intense and all-consuming habit, just trying to layer a new, good habit over the top would take time based on how intense that habit was. But if that habit was connected to other habits, it compounded that difficulty. And so, if there were too many bad habits, it became close to impossible to just layer over the habits with new habits – I had to actually remove those habits from my mind.
So, I started to tackle them 1 by 1. Through meditation, I would reflect on 1 particular habit, and then discard all the surrounding thoughts, cues, environments, people and whatever else that came to mind that surrounded that habit. And 1 by 1, I began to eliminate them from my mind.
Oh God, it was not easy; at times it felt like an uphill battle I could never win, no matter how hard I tried.
Oh God, it was not easy.
Even now, I have to say, tears come to my eyes, because I am so thankful that it has gradually changed and in large part all thanks to meditation. It’s just not something I could do on my own, no matter how hard I tried.
CHANGE TAKES TIME
And again, I am FAR from perfect. But I can see improvement. Just as 1 example, with exercise, I would always hit a wall after around 3 months. The false thoughts that would enter my mind were “Oh so what if you’re fat? No girl is going to go out with you anyway”, “Who cares if your body looks good, what’s the point of it anyway?”, “You’re just going to give up in a months’ time, so you may as well just quit now”, “Even if you lose weight, you’re still going to be ugly”. BUT I SMASHED THOSE THOUGHTS! I gave them up to a higher power outside of myself. I stopped fighting those thoughts or trying to change them and just let go of them. And from there, THEN you build new habits!
And now I’m proud to say exercise is a way of life for me. If I don’t do it, I feel like something is missing! It’s an absolute miracle for me! I am so thankful to meditation for helping me with this. I am so thankful for having found a way to discard them from my mind, so I could rebuild new habits with clean soil in my mind.
Now I’m in the best shape of my life. I have more money. More health. More mental stability. More positivity. More happiness. More control. I’m still on that journey, but I know now I just need to keep taking those steps.
So, in conclusion, if you want to change your habits and your life, my formula goes like this: the number of habits together + the intensity of each habit = difficulty of changing the habit. So, you need to first discard those habits from your mind, and THEN rebuild new ones.
I truly hope this helps you. If you need any help whatsoever, please feel free to reach out to me. If you’re too shy, watch this video which I find summarizes everything perfectly
”How can I motivate myself to change bad habits?”
Regularly review your goals and progress. Continue to set new goals. Keep the momentum up. Find mentors – a mentor is someone who is experienced in the habit you want to change. Surround yourself with positive people. Use exercise as one of your daily goals to improve your mental health.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best way to motivate oneself to change bad habits may vary depending on the individual’s personality and overall goals. However, some general tips that may help include setting goals that are achievable and reasonable, focusing on positive motivation instead of negative reinforcement, and regularly monitoring and assessing one’s progress. In the end, it is up to the individual to find the methods that work best for them and help them achieve their desired results.
How can negative habits be changed?
Exercise more. Quit smoking. Stop biting your nails. Making a list of your habits is not meant to make you feel bad about yourself, but to make you more aware of the things you want to change.
It is often difficult to break negative habits, but with the help of a support system and some patience, it is possible to make a real change. Changing negative habits can be a daunting task, but with the right tools and a plan, it can be done. Here are some tips on how to change your negative habits:
1. Start small. It can be tempting to try to change a large, negative habit all at once, but this is rarely successful. Start by changing a small, easy to stick with habit.
2. Set a goal. Once you have started to change a small habit, it is important to have a goal in mind. What would you like to achieve by changing this habit?
3. Find a support system. It can be helpful to have a support system when trying to change negative habits. This could be a family member, friend, or coach.
4. Be patient. It can take a lot of patience to change a negative habit. However, with perseverance, it is possible to change for the better.
5. Be realistic. It is important to be realistic about how long it will take to change a negative habit. Do not expect to change a habit overnight.
6. Be realistic about the consequences. Before starting to change a negative habit, be aware of the potential consequences. Are there any potential consequences that you are willing to face in order to change this habit?
7. Be creative. If changing a negative habit proves to be difficult, try some creative strategies. For example, think about alternative ways to spend your time that are not related to your negative habit.
8. Be persistent. If you find that you are struggling to change a negative habit, be persistent. Do not give up on yourself.
9. Be honest with yourself. It is important to be honest with yourself when trying to change a negative habit. Are you willing to face the facts about your current situation?
What is the first step to changing a bad habit?
Awareness. The first step is awareness. Find Your Triggers. Now that you’re noticing when you do your habits, focus on what triggers them. Replace. Getting rid of habits is hard. Manipulate Your Context. Don’t rely on willpower. Don’t Give Up.
The first step to changing a bad habit is to identify it. Once you know what the bad habit is, you can start to make a plan to change it. You’ll need to find a way to motivate yourself to stick to your plan, and you may need to find a support system to help you through the process.
How can I get inspired again?
Change Your Environment. The very first thing I do when I feel uninspired is to change my physical environment. Take A Walk. Make Something For Play. Try Something New. Take A Trip. Have A Mentor. Read A Book. Listen To A Podcast.
It can be tough to get inspired again. Sometimes it feels like we’ve hit a wall and we don’t know where to go from here. But there are ways to start feeling inspired again.
One way to get started is to take a look at your life and see where you’re at right now. What are you currently doing that you enjoy? What have you accomplished lately that you’re proud of? What are your passions? Once you know what you’re interested in and what makes you happy, it’ll be easier to find new ways to get inspired.
Another way to get inspired is to find someone who has done something you want to do and ask them how they did it. Or find a blog or article that you can relate to and read it. It can be helpful to have someone else to guide you along the way.
Lastly, it’s always helpful to get out there and do something. Whether that’s going on a hike, taking a class, or meeting new people, doing something will help you to get out of your comfort zone and explore something new.
What things motivate you in your life?
meeting deadlines, targets or goals. mentoring and coaching others. learning new things. coming up with creative ideas to improve something, or make something new. analysing complex data in order to draw clear and simple conclusions. working well as part of a team.
Motivation comes in many forms and can come from many different places. There are some things that motivate me more than others, but they all have one common goal- to help me achieve my goals.
Some of the things that motivate me are my family, my friends, my job, my hobbies, and my goals. I am very grateful for all of the support that they give me, and it is something that I always try to return to them. I also appreciate my job, and the opportunities that it provides me. I am always looking for ways to improve my skills and grow in my career.
Outside of work and my personal life, I also enjoy my hobbies. I love to paint and sketch, and I am always looking for new opportunities to try new things. I also enjoy reading, hiking, and spending time with my family.
There is no one perfect recipe for motivation, and everyone has their own way of motivating them. But for me, the things that have always been most effective are gratitude and a sense of purpose. I am always looking for ways to be more grateful for the things that I have, and to find new ways to use my skills and passions to help others. This is something that I think is very important, and something that I strive to do every day.