There are many ways to control one’s life one’s way. One way is to establish and adhere to personal goals and objectives. Another way is to develop and use positive self-talk to maintain a positive attitude. Additionally, one can create and maintain healthy habits by regularly exercising, eating a balanced diet, and getting enough sleep. Last, but not least, it is important to have a support system, whether it be family, friends, or a personal coach. Together, these methods can help one to live a life that is fulfilling and enjoyable.
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How can I control my life my way?
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There are many things you can do to control your life your way. You can make choices that will lead you to the life you want. You can also take actions to make your life easier. You can also find ways to enjoy life. You can also control your emotions. You can control your thoughts. You can control your actions. You can control your words. You can control your attitudes. You can control your relationships. You can control your life.
You can control your life your way by focusing on what you can control – your thoughts, words, actions, behaviors, and attitude.
“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Letting Go With Acceptance
One of my biggest life epiphanies has been this:
I allow life to continuously flow by choosing to let go of things (and people) that are no longer compatible with me.
There could be many reasons for this, and the main one is this:
It is no longer a priority for me.
I either have lost interest in certain activities or the relationships no longer excite me, usually due to the lack of reciprocity or large disparity in values.
This philosophy is beautifully described in a zen story about a man who visited a monk for advice.
After finishing an intensive silent retreat, the man felt something was still lacking although he was in a better headspace than he first started.
Because of his curiosity for an answer, he was granted permission to seek advice from any of the monks in the monastery.
After contemplating, the man asked one of the teachers:
“How do you find peace?”
The monk replied:
“I say “yes.” To everything that happens in life, I say “yes.”
At first, the man didn’t understand what the monk had meant. However, shortly after returning home, he discovered the wisdom behind those words which was this:
To experience peace means to accept reality – what is truly happening.
Because by doing the opposite – resisting life, he experiences suffering.
But when he surrenders and says “yes” to what is occurring, he can be in a place of power by choosing an appropriate action for the situation.
When life doesn’t go his way, instead of going against the current, he can relax and let the stream carry him so he can flow through life.
Resistance Is A Form of Suffering
By saying “no” to life, you are living in resistance by forcing your way through life.
When you aren’t willing to make peace with external events, you are putting in an effort trying to change the outcome.
Examples may include the following:
Romantic breakup
Job loss
Unfavorable health condition
For the separation of partnership, you may try to convince the other person to stay in your life. As for the job case, you may try to salvage the situation at work. And lastly, for the health situation, you may disregard your medical diagnosis and live in denial.
There are even small forms of resistance such as not accepting heavy traffic and unpleasant weather.
Living out of alignment with life will cause pain and suffering.
Realize this:
You only have full control of yourself.
Most events in life are out of your control, especially those that have happened in the past.
You can make peace with everything that has occurred by giving them acknowledgment and expressing self-compassion, realizing that you did your best knowing what you knew at that time with the tools you had.
This also applies to others such as your parents and past romantic and platonic relationships.
Because trying to change the past is futile and a form of escape from reality.
By wanting to alter the outcome and allowing the event to control your behaviors, you are giving away your power.
Instead, completely owning the situation, you can come from a place of acceptance. After being in a calm and collected state, you can ask yourself:
“How will I choose to respond?”
Driven by self-love, you can make an empowering decision.
Embrace the Truth
Inevitably, life throws unexpected challenges at us, as it rarely happens according to plan.
That’s one of life’s beauties as it always knows what we need to learn.
It is our ally with designed obstacles for us to overcome. And by conquering them, we grow and develop into a better version of ourselves.
Everything happens with a purpose.
You have the power to choose that reason, and your response to any event.
Your choice can be one of the following:
Hindrance weighing you down
Catapult launching you forward
Using challenges as opportunities for growth, you can discover the lessons you are searching for and grow into a wiser man.
Then you can trust life knowing it is always on your side – that everything which happens is for your benefit.
And when you flow with life, everything you do takes less effort.
There’s no resistance when you go with the current of life.
However, there are times when discomfort and even pain are necessary for growth.
Take exercise for example.
If you desire to live a healthy lifestyle, working out is important. And during training, it can be uncomfortable to increase your heart rate, or break down different muscle groups can be uncomfortable.
Because of the resistance, putting effort is required to break your current muscles in order to build them into stronger ones.
Therefore, choose the suffering that is aligned with your core values and highest calling.
Closing Thoughts
Deep down, your heart knows your truth – the course of action that will allow you to connect with your authentic self.
When you act accordingly to your deepest purpose, all emotional burden fades away, and you can find lightness in your body and heart.
You can experience peace knowing there’s a continuous flow of energy dissolving any blockages in the way.
By letting go of what is no longer compatible, you generate space for what is and what could be.
And when you can take full responsibility for your life and make empowering decisions to get out of pain, you can move forward.
Start by choosing to say “yes” to life.
I hope this helps.
Live purposefully,
Perry
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”How do I take control of my own life?”
Clarify your core values and beliefs. Identify internal vs. Create a vision. Believe that you can: Overcome limiting beliefs. Take personal responsibility. Let go of what you cannot control. Respond instead of reacting. Unpack emotional triggers.
There is no single answer to this question, as everyone’s path to self-realization is unique. However, some general tips for taking control of one’s life include:
-Being proactive in planning and managing one’s own schedule: Making a plan and sticking to it is one of the most important steps in taking control of one’s life. Set realistic goals and expectations, and be willing to modify them as necessary, but always have a plan.
-Developing positive self-reflection: As mentioned, everyone’s journey to self-realization is different, but one of the most important things you can do is be open and honest with yourself. Ask yourself tough questions, examine your motives and values, and be honest with your accomplishments and failures. Doing this will help you gain a greater understanding of yourself, and will make it easier to take control of your life.
-Finding a mentor or teacher: A great way to gain knowledge and experience is to find a mentor or teacher. This can be a family member, friend, or professional. Whichever route you choose, finding someone who can offer guidance and support will be invaluable in taking control of your life.
What can we control in your life?
You can control what you eat, how much attention you pay to your breathing, and how long you sleep. You can control how much you exercise and the way you talk to yourself. Carney DR, et al.
There is no one answer to this question as everyone’s life experiences and preferences are different. However, some things that can be controlled in one’s life include: the environment in which they live, the thoughts they think, the words they say, the actions they take, and the relationships they have. It is important to remember that no matter how much one may try to control these things, ultimately they are beyond their control.
What are 3 things in your life that you can control?
Your thoughts. You can focus on what’s going right or what’s going wrong. Your productivity level. Your view of yourself. Your work ethic. Your schedule. How you treat others. Your Meals. Your level of honesty with others and yourself.
1. What I eat
2. How I spend my time
3. How I react to situations
How can I be happy?
Smile. You tend to smile when you’re happy. Exercise. Exercise isn’t just for your body. Get plenty of sleep. Eat with mood in mind. Practice gratitude. Give a compliment. Breathe deeply. Acknowledge the unhappy moments.
There are many ways to be happy, but it all starts with finding out what makes you happy and then doing that every day. There are also things you can do to make yourself happier, like spending time with loved ones, taking a nature walk, or listening to music. Finally, don’t forget to appreciate the things in your life that make you happy. Whether it’s a happy memory, a beautiful moment, or something you enjoy doing, take time to appreciate the things that make you happy.
How can I control my mind and emotions?
Take a look at the impact of your emotions. Intense emotions aren’t all bad. Aim for regulation, not repression. Identify what you’re feeling. Accept your emotions — all of them. Keep a mood journal. Take a deep breath. Know when to express yourself. Give yourself some space.
There is no one answer to this question as different people have different ways of managing their minds and emotions. However, here are five tips that may help:
1. Get enough sleep: A well-rested mind is able to think more clearly and reason more effectively.
2. Exercise: A healthy body and mind are both necessary for a successful life. Exercise releases endorphins, which can help reduce stress and anxiety.
3. Eat healthy: A balanced diet is essential for a healthy mind and body. In addition, eating healthy foods can help reduce stress and anxiety.
4. Get outside: Exposure to natural light and fresh air can help to improve moods and clear the mind.
5. Connect with others: Spending time with friends and family can help to reduce stress and anxiety.
