When you feel like spreading your wings and starting a new journey just do it

Spread your wings

The problem with humans is that we always complain about challenges we encounter in our lives. While it is human nature to over think everything, the same can have severe consequences. Many people are living miserably due to fear of spreading their wings. The truth is that starting a new journey can make your life … Read more

When Life Throws You a Curve Ball Don’t Settle For the Negative Make It A Positive

Don't Settle For the Negative Make It A Positive

Success is everyone’s dream. It is part of human nature to want to grow, do better, increase and succeed. We do everything possible to succeed. We study hard, work hard, join the best companies, we associate ourselves with the best and influential people in the society, be the best boss, we try to do everything … Read more

My Hiatus from Life

My Hiatus from Life

Well, it happened.  It finally broke me.  Life.  The strongest, fiercest force that any of us warriors will battle.  I had a two month period of, what I can only describe as, my own personal descent into hell.  Maybe I’m being dramatic.  But, remember, life and its events are very personal.  My hell could be … Read more

Self improvement tips you can use right now!

self confidance

  leгn а nеw ӏаngυаgе. Aѕ а Sіngарогеаn Cһіnеѕе, mу mаіn ӏаngυаgеѕ аге Engӏіѕһ, Mаnԁагіn аnԁ Hоkkіеn (а Cһіnеѕе ԁіаӏесt). Oυt оf іntегеѕt, I tооk υр ӏаngυаgе соυгѕеѕ іn tһе раѕt fеw уеагѕ ѕυсһ аѕ Jараnеѕе аnԁ Bаһаѕа Inԁоnеѕіаn. I геаӏіzеԁ ӏеагnіng а ӏаngυаgе іѕ а wһоӏе nеw ѕkіӏӏ аӏtоgеtһег аnԁ tһе ргосеѕѕ оf асqυаіntіng … Read more

Starting A New Adventure – Find Who You Really Are

find who you really are

Life is a journey. You will face numerous challenges here and there along the way but you must never give up. Unfortunately, some people become hopeless when life glares in their faces. Consequently, they end up experiencing low self-esteem and bruised confidence. Without motivation and self-confidence, it is difficult to grab golden opportunities that come … Read more

It’s My Day!

new day

Oftentimes, I use a quote to springboard the development of my articles.  I, then, typically delete those quotes as they are really just my inspiration.  But, someone sent me a text today that contained a quote that really hit me. “Today’s a new day.  It’s your day.  You shape it.  Don’t let it be shaped … Read more



Perseverance – steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. Picture this…I woke up and decided to work for four hours and at noon, head out on a much-needed bike ride.  I’m a planner, that’s what I do.  So, I diligently focused on the tasks at hand, checking them off one by one … Read more

Meditation and Motivation


The idea of meditation and motivation seem a bit contradictory.  After all, meditation, by definition, is slowing down and spending peaceful time looking within and motivation inspires action.  So, how can the two of these be connected? I’m just putting the finishing touches on a web course teaching meditation and stress management.  After completing hours … Read more

Communication Barriers – Why Communication Fails?

Communication Barriers

We live in a fast paced world of constant communication.  We have more ways to communicate with people than we have ever experienced throughout history.  While this has many advantages, the influx of modes of communication has added obstacles to successful communication.  To be effective communicators, we must take the time to master various methods … Read more

Goal Setting – Set Your Goals

goal setting

Goal setting is the true secret to success in any area of life. But although setting a goal may seem simple, achieving it is usually another question altogether. Definite goals assist one important purpose. They keep you proactive. With no goals, you respond to conditions and events. Outside things control you. With goals, you produce … Read more

Low Self Esteem Quotes To Boost Up Your Self-confidence

low self esteem

I have noticed there is quite a demand for “low self esteem quotes”. many people with low self esteem are looking for some inspiration. A nice quote when your self esteem is down can help you get the courage and enthusiasm to make a change. Being the nice guy that I am (really I am!) I … Read more

Confidence – what is Confidence and how you define it


Confidence confidence – we are always too short of confidence or have too much of it, but what is confidence anyway? confidence has become one of those words that we use too much and understand too little. On this post, I will explain what is confidence and how he can make our lives better. Wikipedia define confidence: “Confidence … Read more

self motivation definition – what is self motivation?

self motivation definition

Everybody these days use the term “self motivation“. However, what is self motivation?

How do you define self motivation? What does self motivation mean?

In this post, I will give a self motivation definition and I will explain what is self motivation. After reading this post you will be able to define self motivation the best way you can.

First, let us understand what motivation is in general.

The definition of motivation (mo·ti·va·tionˌmōdəˈvāSH(ə)n/noun)) by the business dictionary:” Internal and external factors that stimulate desire and energy in people to be continually interested and committed to a job, role or subject, or to make an effort to attain a goal.

Motivation results from the interaction of both conscious and unconscious factors such as the (1) intensity of desire or need, (2) incentive or reward value of the goal, and (3) expectations of the individual and of his or her peers. These factors are the reasons one has for behaving a certain way. An example is a student that spends extra time studying for a test because he or she wants a better grade in the class.

Read more: http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/motivation.html;

The oxford dictionary defines motivation as:

  • A reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way.‘escape can be a strong motivation for travel’
  • Desire or willingness to do something; enthusiasm.‘keep staff up to date and maintain interest and motivation’

So what is self motivation definition by the business directory?

“Ability to do what needs to be done, without influence from other people or situations. People with self motivation can find a reason and strength to complete a task, even when challenging, without giving up or needing another to encourage them.”

Read more: http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/self-motivation.html”

how does my definition of self motivation differ from the above?

I agree with this definition but only to a point. The part the self motivation definition that needs revising, in my opinion, is the part that concerns others. In my opinion, self motivation can and does get influenced by others.  We are not an island and the relationships that we have with others help us to defines ourselves. Sometimes the interaction with others gives us the drive to motivate ourselves to do something.

However, the effect is not always linear and sometimes works in the opposite direction. For example: if I had a teacher in high school that put me down and disrespect my ability, it could drive me to motivate myself into becoming a successful person just “to show him off…”

Another example is when someone truly believes in me. When someone else gives me the notion that he accepts me as I am and sure of my abilities, I will motivate myself to succeed to make him proud of me.

In those examples, it is still self motivation. I am still the one that motivates myself day in and day out, but others influenced me to do it.

what is self motivation – final words

When I was a little boy I was considered “lazy”. I had great potential but I was a bad pupil. never did my homework and never studied for exams. What my teachers and parent didn’t get is: I wasn’t lazy, I just didn’t have the right kind of motivation. My teachers didn’t know how to motivate me the right way and I was too young to learn how to motivate myself.

I think that the dictionary definition of self motivation is something for the scholars and academic world, we the regular people need to understand the essence of it. Our self-drive instinct was used in the past for survival. These days the survival is much easier and we should learn to motivate ourselves to do things that are not so trivial.

When we set up a long-term goal we discover the true meaning of self motivation. It is easy to stay motivated for a short period, but to stay self motivated over months or years require a really strong character. The ability to stay motivated is a key skill for success.

Many people stay motivated because of external incentives like the fear to be fired from a job or the l need to do something. But when it is not an emergency, it is much more difficult to stay motivated and finish the tasks ahead.

The skill of self-motivation is the skill that separates the winner from the losers, and if you want to be a winner you should know exactly what is self-motivation!.

When you have the self motivation you can find a cause and inner power to finish a task, even when it is difficult, without giving up or needing the encouragement of others.

On a final note, I would like to share a nice poem by Lynn Grace, I found on https://hellopoetry.com/words/339411/self-motivation/poems/:

“They say wisdom comes with age, but I believe wisdom comes to those who seek it

I’ve learned to take every chance that comes my way
That self-motivation actually works
How laughing when I’m down actually cheers me up
That other people’s opinions about me don’t matter
That drama stops by cutting out the people who create it
That I can’t force feelings my heart won’t accept
How crying relieves my soul
That my curiosity and assumptions always kill a part of me
To talk to people that understand what I’m going through
To stop caring about people who don’t care about me anymore
To love those who are in my life with all my heart
How God is with me and will always be with me
That my life isn’t mine to control
That the love of God is all I need and no man will ever love me more than He does
That to live is Christ and to die is gain.”

Self improvement and motivation – roundup 3


This week on the roundup I have some very interesting articles. interested in motivation? do you have the motivation to improve yourself? like to read about building a confidence? in this personal development and motivation roundup, you will find plenty of them both. good Self improvement and motivation articles are hard to come by. luckily for you, I have done … Read more

The “here and now” principle

here and now

Usually, we focus our mind on the past or the future. We rethink over and over again our past mistakes or successes. We daydream about a better future where we will be healthy rich and successful. Someday I will be happy when I’ll have… when I finish school… when I’ll get married when the children will … Read more

The process of decision making

decisions making

All of us have at least one decision we can’t seem to make. We fear failure and are afraid to make a mistake. We fear our surrounding reaction and are afraid to leave our comfort zone. We think that we should wait a little bit longer we will know what is the right decision. In … Read more

interview guide – preparing for an interview

job interview tips

Every once in a while, I get a phone call from some anxious mother that doesn’t understand why her smart son doesn’t get the job he wants. “I don’t understand it, “she says, “he is smart, talented and confident, but he can’t get a job. He is sending a whole lot of resumes, he puts … Read more