Positive Intelligence This Is How You Strengthen Your Happy Muscles In 3 Steps

Positive intelligence is the ability to be aware of and appreciate the good in life. This can be a challenge in today’s world where negative news dominates the headlines. But it’s important to remember that there is also plenty of good to be found.

One way to cultivate a positive attitude is to develop your “happy muscles.” These are the skills and habits that make you happier and more satisfied with life. Here are three steps to strengthening your happy muscles:

1. Make time for yourself.

Taking time for yourself is key to being happy. When you carve out time for yourself, you can focus on things that make you happy. This could be spending time with friends, reading a book, taking a walk, or simply relaxing in your own space.

2. Be grateful for what you have.

It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. But it’s important to remember to be grateful for the good things in life. This could be the relationships you have, the possessions you have, or the opportunities you’ve been given.

3. Let go of negative thoughts.

Negative thoughts can be damaging to your happiness. When you’re tempted to think negative thoughts, try to focus on positive ones. This could be something like “I am grateful for today,” “I am grateful for the good in my life,” or “I am happy today.”

Positive intelligence is key

Positive intelligence: put an end to constant stress

Positive intelligence is a key ingredient for a healthy individual, team, or organization. It can help to reduce stress and anxiety, and can help people to be more effective and productive. Positive intelligence can help people to be more resilient in the face of challenges, and can lead to better relationships.

Some of these situations will certainly look familiar to you: At work, everything is going differently than planned, deadlines are piling up and colleagues are going to the diving station. Or at home your partner and children get on your last nerve because they show zero understanding for your needs. And sometimes you’re not really happy with your reflection. In moments like this, we all wish we could go through life more relaxed, stress-free and loving with ourselves.

This is exactly where the concept of positive intelligence comes in: With a little training and knowledge of our positive intelligence, each of us can create and live a more relaxed and at the same time more self-determined professional and private life.

Positive intelligence: well-founded science instead of wellbeing hype

Positive intelligence is a construct that has been advocated by various authors, including Howard Gardner, and has been the focus of numerous academic papers. In contrast to traditional definitions of intelligence, which emphasize test scores and other quantitative measures, the concept of positive intelligence emphasizes the development of well-founded scientific knowledge and skills.

The concept of positive intelligence has been criticized, however, for being vague and for lacking empirical evidence. Some researchers have argued that the concept of positive intelligence is nothing more than a form of wellbeing hype. Others argue, however, that the concept of positive intelligence can be useful in helping people to achieve their goals.

Positive Intelligence®️ is the result and the combination of the latest findings from brain research, cognitive psychology, and performance research. Positive Intelligence founder and Stanford lecturer Shirzad Chamine tested the concept for its effectiveness with the help of more than 500,000 participants from over 20 countries and summarized it in his NY Times bestseller “Positive Intelligence”.

It has been shown that our individual Positive Intelligence Quotient (PQ), i.e. how strong our positivity muscles are in relation to our mental saboteurs, has a direct influence on how resistant we are to stress and how much of our actual potential we use in work, Live out relationships and the rest of our lives.

The good news is we can still improve our PQ significantly at any age. We achieve this by:

Step 1: Expose your individual mental saboteurs

I am not happy with my job.

I have been unhappy with my job for a while now.

I am not sure if I want to stay in my job anymore.

I don’t think that my job is a good fit for me.

I am not sure how I can improve my job situation.

I am not sure how I can change my job.

I don’t think that my job is worth keeping.

I am not sure if I am cut out for my job.

I don’t think that my job is what I want to do for the rest of my life.

I don’t think that my job is what I am good at.

I am not sure what I can do to improve my job situation.

I am not happy with my salary.

I am not happy with my salary range.

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The biggest enemy of our positive potential are our mental saboteurs, i.e. those thought and behavior patterns that have become deeply ingrained over the years and are now running on autopilot and affecting our lives, our relationships and our job without us really being aware of it is. Shirzad Chamine has uncovered a total of 9 Saboteur types (plus one universal Master Saboteur) in his scientific research:

The Avoider, the Controller, the Hyper-Achiever, the Hyper-Rational, the Hyper-Vigilant, the Pleaser, the Restless, the Stickler, the Victim, and the Master-Saboteur: the Judge. Each of us has a very personal combination of saboteurs of different strengths.

Positive intelligence is investigating the causes, not fighting the symptoms

Suppose you find yourself for the countlessth time in a situation in your job where you are on the verge of a nervous breakdown because all the important projects and tasks are piling up on your desk, while your colleagues are deeply relaxed and enjoying their lunch break. The probability that certain mental saboteurs are at work here is quite high. Because if everything somehow always just ends up on your desk, then it doesn’t necessarily have something to do with an unfair division of work, but can also be down to you. Because you may have a strong controller saboteur and find it difficult to delegate responsibility and trust in the performance of others. If you do, then you’d rather double or triple check everything again, which ultimately means even more work for you.

Maybe the pleaser saboteur is also very popular with you and you find it incredibly difficult to say no for fear of making yourself unpopular or disappointing someone. Or you may have a strong Stickler Saboteur, which means good is never good enough for you. There is always something to improve or revise. The real problem in these cases is not the colleagues, boss or the workload, but rather your own mental patterns.

If you work on relativizing these negative saboteur patterns and thereby returning to your original strengths, this will not only help you in a certain overload situation, but also sharpen your view of how you can permanently shape your job and your life differently can. If you’re curious about which saboteurs are particularly active in your area, you can use this one to find out.

As soon as you have recognized who the most active and strongest opponents of your positive potential are, you can start with the actual “training”.

Step 2: You control your mind, not your saboteurs

When we think of our mind, we often think about the thoughts that come into it. But what about the thoughts that we keep out? What about the thoughts that we choose not to think about? These are the thoughts that control our mind. They are the thoughts that we choose to think about and dwell on. They are the thoughts that we choose to act on. And they are the thoughts that we choose to ignore. The saboteurs are the thoughts that try to control our mind. They are the thoughts that try to take over our thoughts. They are the thoughts that try to take over our lives. But we can control our mind. We can choose to think about the positive things in life. We can choose to think about the things that make us happy. We can choose to think about the things that make us excited. We can choose to think about the things that make us excited to get up in the morning. We can choose to think about the things that make us excited to go to work. And we can choose to think about the things that make us excited to see our family. The saboteurs are the thoughts that try to control our mind. They are the thoughts that try to take over our thoughts. They are the thoughts that try to take over our lives. But we can control our mind. We can choose to think about the positive things in life. We can choose to think about the things that make us happy. We can choose to think about

About 80% of our thoughts that lead to how we feel or behave are unconscious to us. When we begin to pay close attention to which of our dominant mental saboteurs is at work, we have a chance to intervene immediately and “reprogram” our minds. That sounds more complex than it is, because basically it’s about consciously and as quickly as possible activating another brain region, namely our PQ brain.

Saboteur Brain or PQ Brain?

Our “PQ brain” is an interaction of the middle prefrontal cortex, insula cortex and right hemisphere of the brain, i.e. networks that are responsible for our empathy ability, creativity, big picture thinking, self-reflection and self-knowledge, ability to concentrate and intuition, among other things.
In complete contrast to this is our “saboteur brain”, which consists of the brain stem and the limbic system and is responsible, among other things, for our affect behavior, drives, control of emotions and the associated hormone release.

When we are negatively triggered, our saboteur brain always kicks in first. A clever evolutionary survival strategy that prepares us to see danger in everything and prepare to attack or flee. Nowadays, however, it is rarely about survival, but rather about leading a life that is as happy, healthy and fulfilling as possible.

We call positivity muscles the conscious switching between Saboteur Brain and PQ Brain, that is, your ability to direct your mind instead of being directed by it. The stronger these muscles, the faster you can break out of the negativity spiral and deal with stress or challenges in a more effective, creative and motivated way.

Three little exercises for your positivity muscle

1. Make a list of three things you’re grateful for each day.
2. Give yourself permission to say no to things you don’t want to do.
3. Pay attention to the things that make you happy, and do more of those things.

Like any other muscle, our positivity muscles need regular exercise called “PQ reps.” These are short, simple sensory exercises that we use immediately in trigger situations, but also repeat and train several times throughout the day as a preventive measure, so to speak. Anyone who trains their positivity muscles 3×5 minutes a day will notice that they react more quickly to negative patterns in challenging situations and activate their positive intelligence. These three exercises can help you:

All of these PQ exercises focus on the conscious awareness and use of our senses: our hearing, our sight, our taste, our breathing and our physical awareness. With a little trial and error, everyone can find out for themselves which exercises are their personal favorite for the respective situation.

Step 3: Activate your full, positive potential

The third step to achieving our full potential is to activate our full, positive potential. This means taking action on the goals we set for ourselves and putting our best effort into achieving them. It means setting our sights high and forged ahead in the face of any obstacle. And finally, it means being persistent and never giving up.

Activating and living your full, positive potential means acting with empathy for yourself and others, approaching difficult situations with curiosity and openness, developing innovative solutions, listening to your intuition and inner wisdom and trusting and not ultimately pursuing his goals and dreams single-mindedly and unflinchingly. Empathy, curious impartiality, innovation, intuition, and activism are the magic weapons of our PQ brain.

Let’s go back to our initial examples. So, with the help of our positive intelligence and strengthened positivity muscles, it could also go like this:

  • At work, projects and deadlines threaten to pile up on our desks and our nerves are getting thinner and irritated.

However, through our PQ knowledge and training, we quickly realized that it is our controller that is making life difficult for us here. Instead of controlling exaggeratedly and overwhelmed, we can react in good time and change course. Together with the colleagues, we are considering a new, creative way to better share the work and responsibility and to better exchange information about work progress or open questions and to work more closely together.

  • The partner and the children once again show zero understanding for our arguments and needs and we feel like we are in a remake of “Groundhog Day”.

As paradoxical as that may sound at first, when others drive us nuts, empathy is what is needed first and foremost. If your normally understanding partner regularly becomes an emotional block of ice during heated and emotional relationship discussions, then it is probably his/her hyper-rational saboteur who is gaining the upper hand and leading him/her to believe that everything can be done better rationally solve. To you, however, it comes across as hurtful, cold, and only upsets you more. Not getting too emotionally triggered in this situation by immediately starting your PQ reps allows you to activate your empathy and recognize the mental saboteur patterns in others. For you, this in turn means that you don’t feel personally attacked so much and that you regain your inner balance and strength more quickly. This is a completely different starting point for being able to really listen to each other, developing curiosity and sometimes looking for an unconventional solution.

  • Your life isn’t quite the pretty influencer post picture right now, and your reflection could use an Instagram filter.

Our master saboteur, the judge, is just waiting to accompany our entire day with negatively colored subtitles: “This could be better, we could have more of this…or less, we should have done that and left it.” Regularly exercising our positivity muscle doesn’t mean that we’ll be happily cheering on our reflection every morning. But it’s quite likely that we’re starting to look behind the banal facade of saboteur comments more and more often. And after a short night, when our reflection in the mirror looks at us sleepily, we don’t notice the deep circles under our eyes and the pale skin color, but instead the fun and laughter of yesterday’s girls’ night, the good food and the delicious wine come to mind.

For our judge saboteurs, dark circles under the eyes and wrinkles on the face are just an annoying sign of the times. Seen through the lens of our positive intelligence, they are wonderful evidence of an exciting and laughter-filled life.

About the author:

In her work as a Life Designing & Positive Intelligence Coach, Yvonne Hendrych uniquely combines the methodology of Brain-based Coaching®️ with the innovative approach of Positive Intelligence®️ and Life Designing. For more than 5 years she has been helping people to find a new attitude towards life and to have more joie de vivre, love and success. She spends and realizes her own life, her love and her professional dreams between her hometown of Munich and her adopted home of Rio de Janeiro. You can find more information and next training opportunities of their 6-week Positive Intelligence Signature course.

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”What is the positive intelligence program?”

The Positive Intelligence Program grows your three core mental fitness muscles within six weeks. Breakthrough app delivers personalized daily practices that result in powerful new habits for a positive mind.

Positive intelligence (PI) is a program that was designed to help individuals who have difficulty completing tasks due to a lack of intelligence. PI is based on the theory that intelligence can be increased through learning and practice. The program is designed to help individuals with low intelligence levels by providing them with resources and instruction. PI also aims to improve the overall well-being of participants by teaching them how to better manage their time, emotions, and relationships.

What is positive intelligence founded by Shirzad Chamine?

Positive Intelligence (PQ) is a measure of Mental Fitness, indicating how quickly you recover from negative to positive responses to challenges. Breakthrough research with 500,000 participants has shown PQ to be the best predictor of how happy you are and how well you perform relative to your potential.

Positive intelligence (PI) is an umbrella term that encompasses a wide range of abilities and traits that typically lead to success in life. While there is no one definition of PI, it is generally thought to encompass three key abilities: self-awareness, self-regulation, and social awareness.

PI is based on the theory that intelligence is not fixed, but can be increased through learning and practice. Individuals with high PI are more aware of their own strengths and weaknesses, and are better able to regulate their emotions and behaviors. They are also better able to understand and interact with others, which ultimately leads to success in all areas of life.

There is no one way to be a successful PI individual, but the key is to be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses, and to focus on developing skills that will help you achieve your goals. There is no silver bullet to becoming a PI individual, but with the right approach and dedication, anything is possible.

What are the 5 sage powers?

Generate the gift or opportunity by using the 5 Sage powers of empathy, innovation, navigation, deep insight, and calm, clear- headed action.

The five sage powers are the power of knowledge, the power of will, the power of perception, the power of action. These are the five powers that every individual needs in order to be successful. Without these powers, it is very difficult to achieve anything in life.

What is a positive intelligence coach?

Positive Intelligence is a vibrant global community of coaches, entrepreneurs, scientists, designers, engineers, and passionate servant leaders. Powered by positivity, we’re working to make the world brighter for everyone.

A positive intelligence coach is someone who helps people develop their positive intelligence, or “gifts”. Positive intelligence is the ability to be smart, successful, and happy. A positive intelligence coach helps people develop the skills they need to be successful, and can provide advice and support in areas such as work, dating, and personal relationships.

How much does PQ app cost?

As a certified PQ Coach I offer Shirzad Chamine’s PQ program. The retail cost of this program is $995, and I include this as part of your coaching package.

PQ is a mobile app that costs $4.99 a month. The app includes features such as an automatic food journal, a meal planner, and a weight loss coach. PQ also offers a free trial for a month.